It goes like this:

Phase one:

Repeat this in your mind two thousand times:
Don't say anything stupid.
Remember to think before you talk.

Phase two:

Draw these conclusions:
Saying stupid things is wrong.
It is terrible.
It will make everyone hurt and it will make you look like a moron.
If you look like you were stupid, people will spit on you.
Stupid things make people angry.
Angry people are dangerous.
Angry people do hate you.
Angry people are especially dangerous to those to they hate.
They will be emotionally abusive.
They will be physically abusive.

Phase three:

Repeat silently, add some angst:
Don't say anything stupid.
For god's sake don't say anything stupid.

*say something*

Phase four:

Immediately think:
That sounds stupid!
Then wonder:
Does it sound stupid?
How stupid did it sound?

*start panicking*

Phase five:

Decide:
It does sound stupid.
It is stupid.
It is very stupid.

I said a stupid thing.

*panic*

Realize this:
I'm such a stupid thing.
I'm so stupid.
I'm such an idiot.

Phase six:

Question:
Why did I say it?
Why did I think I could say something that didn't sound stupid?
Now they will hate me.
Now they will hurt me.

Draw these conclusions:
They hate me now.
They will always hate me.

I can't say anything without sounding stupid.
I will never say anything again.

I will not.

And if I do, I will make sure it does not sound stupid.

Start from the beginning and repeat:

Phase one:

Repeat six million times:
Don't say anything stupid.
Remember to think before you talk (this time).

Repeat in your mind every time you have to say something. Repeat in your mind every time you want to say something.
You will soon stop saying things. (So don't ask me why I never talk to anyone.)

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